When Paul writes to Timothy in his last letter, he refers to self-professed Bible teachers who infiltrate into households and captivate impressionable women. These gullible women are said to have piles of sin overwhelming them and are being led away with a variety of desires. (2nd Timothy 3:6). These women are constantly seeking to acquire more knowledge but are never able to arrive at the knowledge of the truth. This is a tragic situation indeed. It is characteristic of the dangerous times associated with the last days (3:1).
As I have communicated with various pastors over the decades, I have heard a variety of sad stories that illustrate this Biblical truth. Too many pastors and congregations have experienced the wrath of spiritually gullible women who have listened to bad doctrine from false teachers and taken upon themselves the responsibility of attempting to “correct” the pastor and the congregation. Too often the husband stands on the sidelines with a befuddled look, shrugging his shoulders as if to say, “Well, you know how she can be at times.”
One pastor has noted the pattern that when certain men have come to his office to talk about their “concerns” with the pastor or congregation, it almost always goes back to, “Well, my wife has been reading/listening/studying, and she thinks you are wrong about ….” One church member stated, “If you want to know why Mr. ____ is upset, it’s probably his wife. She makes him tick.”
One pastor mentioned that of the most scathing letters their congregation had received from upset people, the vast majority were from strong-willed women with spiritually weak husbands. I think I would have to concur.
So what to do about it? Men, be aware of what your wife is reading/listening to. Guide her to sound theology. So much of what passes for Christian books for women today is actually unbiblical and full of dangerous theology. Are there sound books available for women? Yes, but one has to exercise great caution in this area. This demands that husbands know sound doctrine themselves in order to evaluate potential resources for your wife.
Women, guard your heart with all diligence. Just because a book claims to be Biblical doesn’t mean that it is. Don’t be gullible. Be sober-minded. Don’t believe everything you read or hear. Talk about sound doctrine with your husband (1st Corinthians 14:35). Don’t be led astray by attractive front covers and the promotional blurbs on the back cover. Use the standard of God’s Word to sift what you hear/read. As a general rule publishers are after you and your money. They are not genuinely concerned for your soul. Your husband is. Your pastor is. Your congregation is. Listen submissively with tranquility of spirit (1st Timothy 2:11).
Biblical pastors have watched too many women over the years get a burr under their proverbial saddle and get increasingly unsettled, to the point of not listening to what is actually being said. One pastor shared the following story. It seems that Mr. & Mrs. ____ were now officially upset with the pastor and congregation. They came to express their concerns with what said pastor had taught during his Sunday morning sermon. He secured a recording of the sermon and listened to it with the couple right there in his office. Wise move. When the alleged teaching was not found in the recording, the wife responded with, “Well, you must have edited the recording. I know what I heard!” This is a good example of a bad example. Women, don’t be like this. This dishonors God and your husband.